Japan for the first time (finally!) / Chefoo Reconsidered Japan (finally!)

Though I have a one year visa I knew that I wouldn't be in Thailand for a full year given important things like 90th birthday and high school graduation celebrations. So I knew I would be in the US from mid April until Mid June for those celebrations. I didn't realize when I arrived in Thailand in January that a couple weeks later I would be flying to Poland for the week and then return for 'take two' as I 'restarted' my time here. And I repeated this pattern when I returned to Thailand in June, spending just ten short days in country, before making my way back to Bangkok and on to Japan for twelve days. However, this was not a last minute trip but rather a trip that had been planned since before Covid rearranged almost everything in the world. 

I've been involved with the Chefoo Reconsidered community in various ways for quite a few years now. In what seems like a lifetime ago (sometime in 2019), the committee that was planning the CR Japan event asked me if I would be interested/willing to facilitate the group sessions during the week long get-together that was planned for June/July of 2020. And then Covid happened and this event that had already been postponed at least once, was push backed again... and again... but finally the the committee (along with Japan, the world and all the powers that be) were able to confirm that at long last we would  be able to gather. And so five years after planning got underway, Chefoo Reconsidered Japan finally happened the week of July 3-7 and it was such a great week on so many levels and definitely worth the wait. 

It was great to be reunited with Elwyn ten Brink who co-led the CR Philippine Bus trip with Jon Fuller and me in 2017. We had been speaking during the past few months as we planned the general direction and content of the week and were both very happy to find ourselves on the same page - desiring to go beyond some of the important TCK information that has been presented at past CR events - to really encourage and give permission to those attending to feel the impact of being sent away to boarding school and being separated repeatedly from our parents. We wanted to offer ways of building resilience and paying attention to our bodies and what they might be telling us - and of course we wanted to include much time for sharing and listening to stories as that is where the real magic and healing happens. 

Planning Committee before everyone arrived (mountain hidden in the background)

The CR Japan planning committee did such a fantastic job planning the events of the week - balancing our structured sessions together along with sightseeing and revisiting familiar places to some and introducing Japan to those of us who did not attend Chefoo Japan. So many details were worked out that just made our time so easy and delightful to be together. There were close to 30 of us who gathered for the week - twelve or so Japan 'kids', six or seven other Chefoo 'kids' and then eight or nine spouses and family members. We stayed at the Onuma Prince Hotel (a step up from CR Malaysia sleeping situations) and held evening sessions at the hotel while having morning sessions at the former Chefoo Nanae school - now being used as a school for Japanese students who have dropped out of the Japanese school system. 

Committee visiting Chefoo before everyone arrived

Welcome dinner at the hotel

First night - Welcome

Arriving at Chefoo

The Yew tree - touchstone for many

And there she is...Chefoo Nanae

Exploring every nook and cranny

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Funerals and Friends

 I've been to a several Thai funeral cremations in the past. Most Thai towns and villages have an outdoor location, where after several nights (usually three) of funeral rituals and activities at the temple, the casket and body are taken and burned. Any remaining ashes and bones are gathered up the next day after the ashes are cool. 

When I first arrived here in January I noticed a tractor clearing a large plot of land next to one of the temples by the lake. I thought construction was going to begin on a new building or something - well I was partially correct as they were clearing the land for the cremation of one of the highest ranking (perhaps the highest ranked) Buddhist abbot in Maehongson province who had died some 100 days ago. Eventually an elaborate ornate funeral pyre was built and after a week of ceremonies and holding vigil, the cremation time was set for 3PM, Sunday February 12. The body and casket was pulled in a lengthy procession the day before and lay in rest overnight - lit up by ever changing lights. 

The grounds were set up with tents and pavilions for the many who would attend including the many food and drink stalls. (Hint - if you ever find yourself in Thailand and you are starving, all food and drink is usually provided free at a funeral.) I don't pretend to understand all that was said and done with many many dignitaries and hundreds of monks some from around the country (the abbot was a big deal) but eventually after all the officials had finished paying their final respects, everyone else was invited to come up and do the same. As the crowds surged toward the pyre, many others began removing elements from the pyre - ornaments, decorations, a truck pulled up and loaded up all the potted plants and flowers - and soon though still quite ornate, it was a little more bare. 

By this time the fire department was also in attendance and at three pm the official 'fire starter' appeared to do final checks. Once the ok was given, another senior monk lit a torch from a candle at one of the covered tents a couple hundred feet away from the pyre where all the priests were sitting and this was raised to a fuse that was lit and then like a screaming rocket went zipping across the now empty field toward the pyre. It zigged and zagged around the pyre until it rocketed into the top of the fire and instantly everything was an inferno. At the same time, huge bomb like fireworks were being set off into the sky. (see videos below) The fire fighters were in place for whenever the conflagration got a little too big and another fire truck began spraying water in the air over the tents where most of the people sat as hot ash was beginning to rain down on them. 

January 2023...Thailand...interrupted by Poland

And as winter settled in, five days into the new year, it was time to leave Seattle and head to warmer weather. And so after saying farewell to these lovely people above, it was back to Thailand via Seoul on Korean and after a couple of days in Chiang Mai onward to Maehongson. One unique thing I had never experienced before was that our flight path from Seoul to Chiang Mai took us literally over (or so close by) that I could see the lights of Shanghai, Hong Kong, Hanoi and Luang Prabang! I thought this was very cool!

Back to some of my favorite views in Maehongson.

Note, cool season blue sky still evident!

Ironically...after being in Seattle for the nine months last year, months that sometimes dragged on, when I would have been happy to travel anywhere for work...ironically, I was just getting over jetlag (I hadn't even been in Thailand a week yet!) when I received a call asking if I would be willing to go support a team from Ukraine that was having a logistics and planning week in Poland and they wanted some mental health support on the side. While the timing wasn't ideal, this is the life I have and the life I want - to be able to have the freedom to travel when needed to support the mental and emotional health of people working to make the world a better place. So my January airport passthroughs grew from SEA-ICN-CNX- HGN to include HGN-DMK-BKK-MUC-KRK-VIE-BKK-DMK-HGN! Whew! And I traded in my views above for...

View of Wawel Castle from my hotel window

It was a good week (hello, any new travel adventure tends to be a good thing:-)) and it is always a privilege anytime I am invited to provide even a small amount of psychological support and resilience to individuals in difficult places who are trying to make the world a safer, healthier place. And as with every conflict when you know names and faces, it makes it that much more real. It was no different with this team. Some had sons and husbands actively fighting. All live with the daily reality of trauma and uncertainty.

Yet they were meeting to actively plan and coordinate what must happen for Ukraine's health system to be restored after the war is over. Safety and job security must be guaranteed. Infrastructure must be rebuilt. These are necessary for doctors and other health professionals to even hope to return. And only then will the real work happen of attending to a country traumatized by aggression, to soldiers who will carry the literal and psychological scars and wounds of war and PTSD. Addiction of various forms will skyrocket. And the general health of a population that has not received regular check ups and care will need to be considered.

This team has been part of planning for the unimaginable reality of nuclear weapons being used against their cities. How do you plan for this threat, for mass casualties, for thousands of deaths and even more thousands dying slowing of radiation and whatever other destruction nuclear weapons unleash? I don't know - but they show up for work every day, determined to not let evil win.

Lies and misinformation are real. As are monsters. As is evil. All very real threats to their country and to the world, whatever country we live in. And, in the face of this evil, courage and resilience are also very real. Kindness is real. Bare knuckling grit and resolve to get the job done are real.

Today as write, I remember the courage of those fighting for their survival in Ukraine. Sláva Ukrayíni!

Though January is still the end of the 'cool' season in Thailand it was much warmer than either Seattle or freezing snowy Krakow! In spite of the cold, I ventured out as much as I could to see a little bit of the city. I told my taxi driver when I arrived that I was literally clueless knowing nothing. Poland wasn't on my must get to list of places in the world. Medieval Krakow is Poland's second largest city (though it doesn't feel like a large city) and still Poland's cultural hub and significant tourist attraction. I did know it was the birthplace of Pope John Paul II and you can still pass by the house he live and I attended a beautiful but freezing concert in the 400 year old church his parents were married in. And of course Auschwitz is only about 30 miles away. Though life continues as normal, it is sobering to feel the weight of history pushing up against the reality that is happening across the border in Ukraine.

Seattle Summer - Fall/Autumn - And a taste of Winter...

 A few reminders but mainly the colors of the seasons...

For many of the nine months in Seattle I kept my eye on these two as they sat on, hatched and cared for their one eaglet this year. They've roosted in this tree for many years. They are good parents even when their kid is learning how to fly - whew there were some parental moments and lessons as he swooped and fluttered and sometimes missed, falling and clawing his way back onto a branch. 

Most every day I would do a 2-2 1/2 mile loop down the hill and around Alki. In nine months of doing this loop, I only ran into someone I knew (the same person) twice! But the sky and the sea were always there - never the same...always changing. Always beautiful. 

Lilies taller than she is...

Homegrown...

And one day all the phaleonopsis got it together and coordinated. 

And the Dahlia's were large and in charge and always spectacular.

So I said I never ran into anyone I knew on my two mile loop - but, there was one friend that I made who was there many many days (maybe 50% of the time) waiting to say hi to me and to all the other walkers that would go past his house and down the steps to the beach. Meet Mochi - beloved neighbor cat who would walk with his many friends up and down the stairs and loved to chase any stick or string or leaf you might have.