Showing posts with label Christmas. Show all posts
Showing posts with label Christmas. Show all posts

Sunday, December 23, 2018

Christmas 2018




Ten years ago we spent Christmas in South Africa, three months into our nine month wander around the world, a journey that ultimately led us to North Carolina for three years and then Washington DC. This is the tenth year we have created our collage card capturing a few of our favourite photos from the year - something we first did after returning from our wanderings 10 years ago.  A lot has happened in the past decade. Whether you have walked with us all this time or are a new friend, know that we are grateful for your friendship as you have accompanied us on our wanderings.

Our card this year features photos primarily taken from our Bali trip. To see most of our other cards from past years go here. 


I have lots of thoughts as we end this year, another tumultuous year in this country and around the world, but I'll simply close wishing you peace and hope with this poem brought to my attention from my friends at Street Psalms. For the full link go here.

Our mission is to plant ourselves at the gates of Hope—
Not the prudent gates of Optimism,
Which are somewhat narrower.
Not the stalwart, boring gates of Common Sense;
Nor the strident gates of Self-Righteousness,
Which creak on shrill and angry hinges
(People cannot hear us there; they cannot pass through)
Nor the cheerful, flimsy garden gate of
“Everything is gonna’ be all right.”
But a different, sometimes lonely place,
The place of truth-telling,
About your own soul first of all and its condition.
The place of resistance and defiance,
The piece of ground from which you see the world
Both as it is and as it could be
As it will be;
The place from which you glimpse not only struggle,
But the joy of the struggle.
And we stand there, beckoning and calling,
Telling people what we are seeing
Asking people what they see.

- Victoria Safford

Saturday, December 23, 2017

Christmas 2017


This year...has been a challenging year for many, ourselves included. We have worked at strengthening our supports - seeking community, finding a new church, enjoying our apartment, focusing on what is important - but even this has been hard at times. Recently I heard someone talking about how moments of grace and hope can often be found in the wilderness. She encouraged us to look for signs of hope noting that often those that most embody hopefulness in the wilderness have several things in common:
1. They have fully accepted that they are in the wilderness - even if they don't like it. They are not going to spend one more ounce of energy railing that the wilderness exists but rather they simply ask where God is in the midst and how am I supposed to live?
2. They are able to speak the hardest truth in a way that everyone can hear - not just appealing to either side - See Bryan Stevenson, Shane Claiborne and others.
3. They have tapped into something that sustains them - they keep following, looking, reminding all of us that this is not the end of the story.
I admit I have spent much of this year, not being able to do #1 even while I hold to #3 that what we see around us is not the end of the story. May it be so. 
This year our card has a few moments and reminders of hope, of breath, of peace and goodness - all things we long for as we wait and anticipate. 
Merry Christmas!
Duncan and Andrea

Tuesday, January 10, 2017

Quite the year...

If you were wondering if we created a card this past year (something we have done for the past 8 years)...we did, but time ran out and it didn't get posted for Christmas/New Year. Between Andrea and I, we traveled to 15 countries this past year but only two of them together. Our travel was the main takeaway from this past year, and there is much we are learning as a result. It was quite the year. A few travel highlights are captured in the two versions of our card below. We are happy to report that today we are embarking on a journey together for our "get out of the freezing cold winter" escape. Stay tuned. Here's to another year. #plantflowers



Friday, December 25, 2015

Christmas 2015



This is the 7th year we have created a collage card to send to family and friends and to remember special moments from the year. Highlights of this year included a trip to Ireland in September, Duncan's trip to India in March and a work trip for Andrea that took her to several countries. We are grateful to know that the work we do can and is making a difference.

I am grateful for the reminder that "in those days" there was much fear and division in the world, not unlike we face today, BUT "on this day," because of this day, there can be a new way forward, a different possibility and the reminder - Do Not be Afraid! (Luke 2:1-20 Thanks Dottie Younger)

GK Chesterton writes, "Christmas is built upon a beautiful and intentional paradox; that the birth of the homeless should be celebrated in every home." So on this day that we remember a middle eastern family that was looking for a place to stay and the good news that came on this day, my hope and prayer is for peace and safety and justice for all.

Duncan and Andrea


Wednesday, December 24, 2014

Christmas 2014

 Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

From literal to figurative deserts, this has been a year of waiting, endurance, and seeking answers. We are grateful for those who have walked with us, prayed for us, and provided encouragement. We are grateful for moments of beauty and reminders in the midst that we are not alone. And we’re grateful for new beginnings as Andrea begins a new position in her office in January.


Many of you will know that over the past few years we have developed a pattern of finding a poem or phrase that becomes our word or mantra for the year. My former boss at the Staff Care Center introduced me to the following poem and it has carried us through the past months. Perhaps it will do the same for you. 

This is the time to be slow / Lie low to the wall / Until the bitter weather passes. / Try as best you can, not to let / The wire brush of doubt / Scrape from your heart / All sense of yourself / And your hesitant light. / If you remain generous / Time will come good; / And you will find your feet / Again on fresh pastures of promise / Where the air will be kind and blushed with beginning / 
(John O’Donohue to bless the space between us: a book of blessings)


Duncan and Andrea

Saturday, December 21, 2013

'Tis the Season...

...for catching up on this blog! 

...for choosing the images that go on our compilation card that we began after our trip five years ago...

From a baby panda named Bao Bao (meaning Precious/Treasure) born this year in the DC Zoo and who might be one of the cutest creations ever (seriously go to the National Zoo Panda cam and tell us we are wrong) to a large horse named Andrew, flowers and fruit, trips to Belize, Florida, Amish Country, Durham and Seattle, the images here represent some of the seasons and moments this past year that have brought us joy.

...for cookie decorating. Check out these cookies our next door neighbor dropped off for us! Who does this? Even the elf/gnome (?) has rouge on his cheeks!



...for a newish tradition - finding a poem or phrase that will carry us through the next year. Last year I found two - The Julian of Norwich 'All Shall be Well' quote which we included on our Christmas card and here and the amazing excerpt taken from WH Auden’s For The Time Being: A Christmas Oratorio which I posted here on Geography of Grace, a website I still manage and edit.

This year we have already found the poem courtesy of our friend Deb in Durham. She knows us well. She knows that though life is often challenging, life is also good and so on her Christmas card to us she gave us our poem for the year...


May I Suggest

May I suggest to you
May I suggest (to you that) this is the best part of your life
May I suggest
this time is blessed for you
This Time is blessed and shining
almost blinding bright
Just turn your head
And you'll begin to see
The thousand reasons that were just beyond your sight
The reasons why
Why I suggest to you
Why I suggest this is the best part of your life
- Susan Werner, Sung by Red Molly

Good words for me, for so many reasons! There have been challenges along the way but we know that God continues to be with us and for all this we are grateful. Whether near or far, we send you warm greetings. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Duncan and Andrea
PS - below are a few more photos from this year (that didn't make the Christmas card.)


 We loved the couple trips we were able to take to warm places this year including Belize (see earlier post) as well as four days down in Florida on Pine Island where we went to check out the novelty of mangoes on the mainland - and they did not disappoint!
 We enjoyed seeing our families (Duncan for his dad's 80th Birthday surprise in April - see previous post) and both of us in August. Loved going on a family hike and love this picture of the Wilson- Butler clan.

 And in spite of not enjoying everything about this city we live in, there is much we do enjoy and we have tried to take full advantage of seasons, museums, monuments, gardens, historical sites and activities. Photo above - during the Cherry Tree Blossoms - sometimes you can actually see the blooms in spite of all the people!

In addition to Bao Bao, Rusty the Red Panda also made headlines when he escaped the zoo for a day and wandered around the local neighborhood. This we also followed with great interest.

The Kenilworth Aquatic Gardens is a little known National Park here in DC but is amazing when all the water lilies are in bloom.
At the Library of Congress, with a view of the Capital

Walking through a recent snowfall
We are grateful for your friendship as we continue to tip toe and explore life together. 

Saturday, December 22, 2012

So this is Christmas

 We first sent out a 'Christmas' card four years ago, one that we hoped would sum up our year of travel and change as we moved to North Carolina. We've continued doing this since then, choosing photos that best represent the theme and mood of the year.  Here we are again, navigating more change and experiencing our first Christmas in DC.



2012 was a year of change – both geographic and in what we do day in and out. We began the year with 3 months in Thailand, returned to Durham for Andrea to graduate from Duke with a dual MBA and MPP, and then moved to Washington, DC in August. We journeyed through uncertainty and anxiety about the future but ultimately have felt God guiding and directing us. Details of our last year can be found in previous posts here on this site.

Although the last year has been challenging and at times, lonely, we are grateful for the opportunities that continue to unfold as we journey on an unknown path. We echo a quote from Julian of Norwich as we end this year and begin another: 
              “All shall be well and all shall be well and all manner of things shall be well.” 

This is our prayer for you and us during this season. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year!

Duncan and Andrea
PS. We're including a few fun photos below of one of our recent visits to the White House. Yes, we have managed to go twice (!) in the past month, thanks to one of Andrea's former Duke classmates - once to walk through the West Wing and then a week or so later to view all the Christmas decorations at the "main house." Also below are a couple photos from Zoo Lights at the DC zoo and a view of our building lobby as we were getting ready for the annual holiday party.











Saturday, December 24, 2011

Merry Christmas!

Merry Christmas from Seattle where we are celebrating with our families for the first time in four years. We are here for ten days before we begin our wanderings again...
With excursions to Boston (where Andrea completed a summer internship), Charleston, Savannah, and various points in between, 2011 has been a year of new places and demanding work for both of us. We are grateful to be on the home stretch of Andrea’s three year program at Duke, but before she graduates in May, we have another journey planned. On January 1st we will be returning to Thailand for two and a half months as Andrea will be part of a student exchange program at Chulalongkorn University in Bangkok. We will update the blog with travel stories as well as play catch up on some of this past year's travels...we hope you will continue to wander with us:-) While we don’t know where we will be this time next year after Andrea graduates, we know that God continues to look after and provide for us. We have continued to love being in North Carolina and are grateful for deepening relationships there. And whether near or far from us, we are thankful for our friendship with you and your presence in our lives. May you know hope, joy, and peace this season. Merry Christmas and Happy New Year! Duncan and Andrea

Monday, December 20, 2010

Blue Christmas





Swiss Mountain Lake




When we were gathering and sorting photos for a 'Christmas' card to send to family and friends this year we realized there was a blue theme that unified many of the pictures. You can see our card here as well as a couple of the originals.



In some ways it doesn't seem that long ago that we posted Christmas greetings on this site a year ago. I don't feel like I have any profound Advent/Christmas thoughts to share this year - but if you need some encouragement or a reminder of some things that matter during this season that often becomes so frantic - go to Geography of Grace - the website that I still manage and edit for CTM. There have been some powerful and moving thoughts posted this Advent season.



We had a great time taking photos of swooping seagulls one day at a NC beach.



We are grateful for the opportunities that have come our way this year - the opportunity to continue in school and pursue a calling (see Andrea's school update below), being able to return to work and have a steady income, catching up with old friends and classmates, Switzerland, clear blue North Carolina skies, and profound moments at Duke Chapel.



Duke Chapel lit up by sunlight shining through the stained glass windows at this time of year.



Wherever you find yourself at this time, may you find hope and joy and peace this season.



Duncan and Andrea

Thursday, December 24, 2009

Christmas Images and Thoughts

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To read more about Beautiful Angle go to http://beautifulangle.homestead.com/. I saw this image posted when we were briefly in Tacoma some time this past year and took a photo. Beautiful Angle expresses truth and art so powerfully and creatively. Really, if you just ponder this print and don't read anything else of this post, you'll be just fine.

Painting in First Presbyterian Church, Capetown, South Africa
I have a collection of Christmas cards that I have gathered and saved over the years. All of them depict cute little shepherd boys (none over age 10 or so - most under age five.) Shepherd themed cards are always popular but I was struck this year how inaccurate and unrealistic most of these images are. While young boys around the world today are often still responsible for looking after their family's animals, it's not quite the cute picture that most cards portray. The reality of a shepherd's life is that it is tiring, dirty, uncomfortable, lonely and dangerous at times. I'm guessing there were not many cute cherub-like shepherds looking after the sheep that first Christmas night. I imagine they were a little more rough and rugged - a mixture of odd anti-social misfits, young men filled with adolescent angst and antics (you know what teens can get up to when left alone for long periods of time!) lonely and perhaps poor - certainly no one on top of the social network. Yet it is this motley crew that hears the good news first. God in the flesh has arrived. Joy to the world and Peace in spite of what you see around you...Peace. And so the mystery and the scandal begins.

I don't know why the shepherds were chosen to hear the news first. Perhaps everyone else had too much going on and they would have ignored or quickly forgotten the angelic interruption. The shepherds at least had time on their hands to ponder and act. But for whatever reason, the tired, the lonely, the misfit, society's least and last were chosen to hear the good news first. That in and of itself is good news for which I am thankful.

This tin cut out is one of our favorite images (and purchases) that we brought back with us from South Africa. Love the facial expressions when Mary and Joseph realize what the wisemen are bringing as gifts! (A gourd/pumpkin, chicken and traditional stew) Tin Town in Capetown makes all sorts of creative tin gifts and ornaments.

For more information go to http://www.tintown.co.za/profile.html



Whatever your situation this Christmas, whatever state of construction or deconstruction of Christmas, whether you are lonely or surrounded by friends and family, may you also experience peace and joy. Thank you for continuing to wander with us. We've covered some distance this past year together - From Tacoma to Europe to South Africa to Southeast Asia, back to Seattle/Tacoma and now to Durham. The following is a card we sent out recently containing some of our favorite images of this past year. Merry Christmas!

Duncan and Andrea

Tuesday, January 6, 2009

December 22-25, Plettenberg Bay

On the 22nd we gratefully left our dismal hostel in East London and continued our drive south, heading for Plettenberg Bay. It was another long drive day, 9 hours in total, so we stopped along the way in Jeffery's Bay a beautiful coastal town known for its great surfing. We tested the waters with our feet, stopped at tourist information to collect hundreds more brochures and had an obligatory chocolate dipped ice cream cone.


As we were getting back onto the highway we noticed a dredlocked hitchhiker putting his hands together in the prayer/pleading pose for us to pick him up. Now, there are a lot of hitchhikers in South Africa, mostly the black South Africans that have no transport of their own. Groups of people trying to hitch a ride stand on the side of roads or highways and either have signs or make hand signals to indicate their destination. Throughout this journey we had often debated if we should pick someone up, but our lack of knowledge of the area and the general consensus from all races of South Africans that it is unsafe combined with the fact that our backseat is covered with stuff has usually prevailed. The other problem with hitchhikers is that they are usually standing under 'no hitchhiking' signs and our general fear of the traffic control who we have already gotten one ticket from and who are everywhere has also made us not stop. It seems that while there are tons of hitchhikers in South Africa no one picks them up except for private minibus taxis, enterprising South Africans' answer to the lack of public transportation. This time the sheer desperation of the hitchhiker struck us and we were pretty sure that this was a fellow traveler. After some debate, one u-turn, and a stop to shove our stuff over as much as possible we picked up Eyal from Israel. It was a very tight squeeze, with Eyal and I balancing backpacks on our laps, as we had not noted his surfboard in our decision making process. He said he had been waiting for two days in that spot for a ride. He slept next to the highway and had gotten up at 6 am to start hitchhiking. We picked him up around 3pm. We talked for the next 2 hours until we deposited him at the Shell station outside Plettenberg Bay.



We found our home for the next four nights, Nothando (the word for 'love' in Xhosa) and were shown our spotless room with a nice comfy bed. Nothando's is a backpackers and a bed and breakfast located on the property of the family who owns it. While we would see the family several times a day as they hung out on their property or we bumped into them in the bar/kitchen next to their house, they were not friendly, and the business was clearly left in the hands of their hired managers. When we were at Old Vic Travelers Inn in Nelspruit we had asked the owners what they would do with their guests on Christmas and were told that while they would try and only have a few guests and not a full house they would certainly have a Christmas lunch for the guests. We had also heard similar things from the Spot in Umtentweni and while we weren't expecting a full meal from Nothando we expected some acknowledgment of the holiday.



The morning after we arrived at Nothando's I broached the subject with the manager on duty and was told, 'No, there is nothing, it is a family day.' Disappointing. . . especially as in this backpackers it was very difficult to meet people because the natural gathering places like the bar or kitchen were often dominated by the owners and their entire unfriendly family in for the holidays. Sitting in the bar you often felt like you were interrupting and were unwanted.



We have known for a long time how important community is to our quality of life. This has been confirmed over and over again in South Africa especially as South Africa as a destination was originally chosen because we could connect with acquaintances from our previous trip. When that did not materialize it was like our compass lost true north. We had no purpose and more importantly we had no one to ask our millions of questions to. We did find our bearings again but it was due in part to finding great people who were incredibly friendly and gracious about answering our questions at ACS Computers, Old Vic, New Covenant Church, and a few other hostels along the way. Being Christmas, we came with high expectations to Nothando's, hoping that we could share the day with friendly people.



The initial let-down from Nothando's was redeemed when we made some Swiss friends. I think the friendship began when I asked Lilian if she knew if anything was going on for Christmas. When she repeated my finding that, 'No, it was a family day,' our mutual disappointment showed that we were like-minded. Later that evening Thomas and Lilian and Duncan and I struck up a conversation and played with Nothando's six month old puppy. The next day Thomas and Lilian asked if we wanted to make a nice breakfast with them on Christmas to which we said, 'Definitely.'



Christmas day we got up and walked down to one of the most picturesque churches we have seen. The Anglican Church had a 7:30 choir service but when we arrived at 7:20 we were ushered into a large hall because the small church was full. When the choir only materialized in the church and not in the hall we snuck over and sat on the benches outside on the covered porch to listen to the service. By the time we got back to Nothando's Thomas and Lilian had set a beautiful table out in the warm garden sunshine along with plates of bread, scones, and cheese. We added sausage, a mango and litchi fruit salad and the bleu cheese they had bought me as a Christmas present (because I had been complaining about the lack of real cheese in some of the stores and my extreme hankering.) They cooked eggs and bacon and we sat down to a great meal with great company.



After a short respite we all went down to the beach and enjoyed the sun (a little too much sun for my still pale Seattlelite/Tacoman skin) and bodysurfed in the waves. We saw a pod of dolphins, followed by a flock of birds, chasing their Christmas meal. For dinner we split up, Thomas and Lilian headed to a restaurant and we cooked up our roast chicken and potatoes. It was a great day.



That night we all rested for our big adventure the next day – skydiving!!!


Andrea

Wednesday, December 24, 2008

December 19 - Luthando, Bonginkosi and Patrick – Three Kings

Throughout our time in SA we have heard comments (most often from white South Africans, but not entirely) regarding the work ethic of black South Africans. At times it is inferred, other times it is quite blatant. “99% of black people don't care how long you wait...oh these black people, most of them are just lazy...these people just take their time...”  Are the people who say these comments racist or prejudiced? Are there cultural gaps and misunderstandings that lead to statements like this? Is there still an attitude that lingers from when whites (though a minority) ruled and dominated this country? These are all valid questions that deserve answers and contextual understanding but I mention them so there is a context for the past 24 hours and the following story.

After waking to a brilliant day, picking up some trash on the beach (hey we all need to do our part) I decided to go for a quick swim. It was still early with only three lifeguards preparing for another long day (they arrive at 7AM and don't leave until 4 or 6PM) and a handful of other early morning risers walking on the expansive beach. This is prime surfing country with great swells and breakers and it was no different yesterday. I had seen the lifeguards swimming, out testing the waters and thought I would have a quick dip before breakfast.

I'm not the strongest or fastest swimmer by any means but I am comfortable and confident in many water conditions. (Some of you know that I love jumping off bridges, piers and cliffs. I prefer warm water but Puget Sound has had more than a few DW free falls!) I quickly got through the crashing breakers out to where the higher swells were in hopes of doing a little body surfing and bobbing around. One of the lifeguards was quite close to me and we both took our turns trying to catch the perfect wave. After ten or fifteen minutes I suddenly knew I was getting a little too far out and realized that even as I tried to swim in, I wasn't getting any closer to the shore and I was really really tired. It took me about 20 seconds to decide to call to the lifeguard “Hey man, I think I am in trouble.” Instantly he was over to me, supporting me and keeping me up above the waves. Andrea had been sitting on the beach during this time and I called and waved to her but she couldn't hear me. The lifeguard also waved to his other two colleagues on the beach and in a flash they were in the water swimming out to us with their flotation devices. I grabbed onto the ring of one and he started swimming for shore where we took a bit of a beating coming through the breakers but soon I was standing on sand, every muscle aching. I thanked all three of them. The first two including the one who had been with me walked off, just another day's work, (perhaps a little earlier than usual) another swimmer who over estimated. They have seen it many times. The third lifeguard who was a little older came and shook my hand and I think he said, “Don't test us, Test God.” He might have also said, “Don't thank us, Thank God” as he said that several more times. I'm not sure, things were a bit of a blur. Either way, either phrase made sense!

I walked slowly up the stairs from the beach, muscles in pain, slowly showered, ate breakfast and pondered. I kept thinking of these comments I have heard about black South Africans being slow to respond in their jobs and all I knew was that I had been rescued by three young South Africans (Luthando who was with me is 18 and still in high school) who all happen to be black who took their jobs very seriously and did not waste any time and quite literally saved my life. I'm not sure I would be writing this if Luthando had not been out there with me already to hear my cry for help.

Humbling, convicting, haunting...Throughout the day I kept thinking about what had happened and it was what I wrote in the previous paragraph that was so powerful to me. Anyone who has faced a life threatening situation is bound to be a little introspective and I certainly was. We have had so many conversations with people of all skin tones in recent weeks about their dreams, hopes and challenges (as well as what they see in South Africa) and this experience somehow placed me at ground zero in this racial cultural discussion.

It's strange to feel truly indebted/in debt to someone. What can you say? What can you do for someone who has literally saved your life. We drove to the store and bought a bag of cold drinks which we took down to the beach at noon to give to the lifeguards (who were now a group of four.) Again I offered my gratitude saying this was just a small gift. More importantly I wanted to tell them how they had become (or perhaps it is me that had become) part of a much larger story. I told them that I will tell how three black South Africans took their job very seriously to any person who tells me that blacks do not take their jobs seriously. These four work 7AM-6PM every day of the week during high season and holiday time even on Christmas and then just on weekends the rest of the year. They are paid 100 rand (US$10) a day (equivalent to what many domestic help/servants make) which is better than what many make in a country with up to 40% unemployment. It is not what any of them want to do forever, but it is a job – a job they have to love doing otherwise the danger and hardship would not be worth it. If they were paid 100 rand every day consistently that would be better (3000 a month) but that only happens two to three months a year. Working only weekends for the rest of the year doesn't cut it.

We talked about their dreams and hopes, whether they have hope for themselves and SA. As always it comes down to employment and a living wage. They have to find work.
We talked of the United States and what it is like there – a frequent topic in all the conversations we have here – more on that in another post. We talked about their lives here in SA.

Of the three Luthando has been a lifeguard the shortest time – just a year. Bonginkosi had been working for three years and Patrick had been doing it for seven years. I was shocked they told me that no one has ever returned to say thank you after being rescued like I had! I asked them if they knew the passage in the Bible where Jesus healed the ten lepers and only one returned to say thank you?!

Luthando has dreamed of being a Pilot, but now is thinking of being a diver. Patrick realizes he must get a better job that offers consistent pay and security. He has applied for a government job and is also thinking about how he might get to Florida to work there. Bonginkosi's hope was intertwined with anger knowing how desperately he needs a job but how difficult they are to find in certain situations.

I was so impressed with their work ethic, obvious in their actions with me but also in their preparation every day, working out, staying fit, testing the waters, reading the currents and always, always keeping an eye on everyone. They often know who will get into trouble before they even get in the water. I asked Luthando if he knew that I was going to be in trouble. First he hedged, then admitted he didn't know but as we were out for a while he knew I would be tired. He never admitted sticking around just in case, but I think he did.

As I prepared to leave, I asked if they get breaks of any kind. Only for a minute or two to go to the bathroom. They eat breakfast at home before they arrive on the beach at 7 and then eat when they get home in the evening again. None of them have lunch.

Today in addition to cold drinks I brought them lunch. Some might be critical of my actions and say I'm doing it only to make myself feel good. But there's no sugar coated hope here. Spending a few dollars doesn't solve any of the large challenges they currently face and will face in their lifetime. I just want them to know I am grateful for them. I also want them to know that there is at least one white person who will sit and talk with them on the beach. I hope that gives them some hope just as they have given me hope and life. This Christmas I have been visited by my own three kings who brought me gifts of life, hope and an ongoing story of good news to tell.

Duncan